I don’t know if I’m back to blogging here or not. I’m overwhelmed with many projects , work and of course the world. It’s a good thing. Hope to have a bit of a respite soon. Like you Ive been thinking about the current political atmosphere but specifically how families are dealing. Are we all a bit desensitized since we live in a world where social media is seemingly all negative or lewd. Trying to sift through to find real news and the truth is difficult. As a parent it all comes down to listening. I’ll share a peek into what we do and how we navigate.
For the past 3 years we have weekly family meetings. For busy, progressive parents with teenagers who all have our own lives and passions; it’s necessary for us to intentionally connect face to face in a slightly formal/informal format. We take turns leading. We each share our concerns and positive things that went on during the week whether it was amongst us or in-house or in the world. We also share our goals for the next week. We offer thank yous to each other. If we forgot to do a meeting on Sunday we have it in the car Monday morning or another day. We try to be as consistent as we can. We don’t take notes. We have strong opinions and emotions. We’re thankful we have this open forum to communicate and be open as much as possible. We’re real people.
If I could offer anything to any parent right now it would be to have family meetings if you don’t already. Use that time to listen to each other to not be afraid to share anything. Let it be a judgement free zone that provides real parental guidance and rules with love. It’s not easy. My kids are used to it now. Structure the meetings how you want. Add topics. Most importantly inquire if there’s anything in the news that’s bothering your child or children? Ask if they feel safe? If not discuss solutions on how they can feel safe. Set media breaks including the tv. Come up with an action you can do as a family. Reiterate and encourage your kids to share their voice however they can via art, letters, postcards, songs etc, joining clubs etc. All outlets are welcome and helpful. As parents manage your own engagement with social media. Your kids are watching you. Some of your kids may even be following you. Educate them on self-care early on. Discover what that looks like for them. Have them write out affirmations and post them on their bedroom doors or carry in their book bags. Many of us who believe in inclusivity, democracy and FREEDOM to speak out are being supremely tested right now. Reference other challenging moments in history and throughout the world. Share with your kids how people that looked like them rose up to fight for their rights however they could. Have your kids share any moments they felt powerful despite being scared or nervous. Lastly, always continue to work on making your home a safe sanctuary of peace, love and freedom.